Some of the bloggers on First Wives World have complained about how single guys in the dating pool seem to prefer to text messaging as opposed to picking up the phone and talking. Well, that would turn me off too, but I have found texting to be the preferred way of communicating with my ex.

Unfortunately, there are still some financial loose ends that John and I are wrapping up, even though our divorce was final in March.

If I feel that it doesn’t need to be a lengthy conversation, I will text him what I have to say instead of calling him. And, of course, I only contact him about business matters.

Over the months, I've learned that texting helps me maintain my calm and usually prevents me from losing my temper. It's harder to yell in a text message.

Texting versus calling also helps me distance him from my thoughts. It makes sense, because hearing a voice is more personal than reading a bunch of words on a screen.

I agree that texting can be a big turnoff in the dating world, but I’m digging it in the divorce world.