What Divorced Women Need To Know Before Jumping Back In The Sack

My husband is my first husband and first man, but I am his second wife, his first wife passed away in his marriage. I have been together for about 5 years, he has brought up this anal subject from time to time. A few years ago, I actually yielded once, for then I was in a very bad position: come from oversea, no family, no friends, no job, no money, no shelter. But I told him, next time, he would have to do that over my dead body. Still, he brings up every time, no matter how I hate it. Last night, he brought it up again. And even trying to bring my breast milk back, after I have stopped breastfeeding for almost 4 years., just so he can have a sip sometimes. I feel he doesn't treat me the way he would have treated a woman from here. Am I wrong? Would a native woman from here put up with his request? After I have waited on him and the two step kids for years, he is trying to drive me away over anal sex and breast milk? I am so very fed up with him. Maybe I will have to leave him sooner or later, though I don't know how I can make it on my own and keep my 4 year old son.

Yes, I can share some of my experiences with you but first I ask you, why don’t you want to have anal sex? Have you ever tried it? How old were you and what were the circumstances when you did? I read about a recent clinical study of American women in which over 30% indicated that they engage or have engaged in anal sex. Surprisingly of the women that engage in anal sex, over 70% stated that they enjoy it and some have orgasms. Here is my story. I married a French man over 20 years ago. He needed a green card and I was not sure that I can do better. We ended being really different as we grew older. As just one example, I have become a heavy smoker and he has become an avid cyclist and logs on average about 150-200 miles a week. He can’t stand the smell of smoke so we have not slept in the same room for a decade. Like you and your husband, we have our moments so we stay together. We have three beautiful girls and he is a great father and the girls adore him. I have always had problems. My parents were abusive verbally and physically (not sexually). I have been seeing a therapist for most of my life and I am depressed. I have a decent figure but I don’t like what I see in the mirror. Our sex life was terrible for years mostly because of me. Before my depression diagnosis I used to masturbate and fantasize so I never had the desire to have sex with my husband. And when I did, I was not into it and did not want to try anything except having him on top of me. We did not do it doggy style until we were married for 8 or 9 years. The same with oral sex. Finally, through therapy, I learned how to get rid of some of my inhibitions, ever so slowly and our sex life became much better. Then he brought up anal sex and at first that did not sit well with me. I came from a catholic home and the idea horrified me. At the time that he brought it up our marriage was falling apart so I was worried about adding fuel to the fire by rejecting his request for anal sex. I love him and I know that he loves me in spite of all of our problems. I spent so many hours with my therapists (two of them) talking about this and finally decided to try it. I read about how it should be done so I am comfortable and so he has pleasure and bought a douche and the right gel, etc. The first two times were difficult. By the third time we figured it out and he worked hard to be gentle with me and caress me in all the right spots and now I can (not always) have an orgasm while having anal sex. Our marriage has gotten better but I am not sure it was because I agreed to this. I think that it has gotten better because I am less inhibited in bed, I smoke half as much as I used to and I am working on quitting so we can start sleeping in the same room and other things like that. Let me know if this helped because if that is the case I also want to share with you what my best friend went through with her husband.