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5 Key Rules to a Successful Trial Separation

Posted to by YourTango on Tue, 01/08/2013 - 8:32am

Separation between couples is often misunderstood due to the lack of guidelines and the ease with which it can be carried out. It is fraught with many pitfalls if certain clear objectives are not laid down or ultimately met. The most basic goal of any separation is to give the couple space and time in their relationship to decide on future action, particularly in saving the marriage etc., without undue influence from each other. However, couples often get distracted and confused and lose sight of their goal and their trial separation ends in divorce.

Furthermore, once separated, some people will see the break as a license to look and opportunity for them to start new relationships, which then complicate the situation and make finding a solution to the marital problems much harder.

In order to make a trial separation successful a couple should agree to five key rules:

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Don't Allow Your Divorce to Interfere With Work

5 important professional mistakes to avoid

Posted to by Lee Miller on Thu, 08/30/2012 - 7:56am

Getting your career back on track after going through a divorce is not easy, particularly if you have been out of the workforce for some period of time. Because it's an emotional time, recent divorcees are often not in the best position to make the right decisions.

Too often, due to fear or financial exigencies, or simply because they are relying on bad advice, divorcees fail to take the right steps to get back on track and simply take the first job that they find. The labor market is very open to women returning to the workforce after time off.

A recent survey by the Center for Work/Life Policy found that of women with college degrees, 74% who took time off to raise families were able to return to work when they decided to go back. The key is to know how to go about it.

Here are some common mistakes that women make regarding their careers when they are going through a divorce:

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Can Women Have Trophy Boyfriends?

Posted to by Marilyn Stowe on Fri, 01/13/2012 - 9:07am

“Tell me,” asked Mrs Merton famously to the glamourous Debbie McGee about her well-known magician husband, “what was it that first attracted you to the millionaire Paul Daniels?”

The image of the not so stunning but very wealthy Paul Daniels flashed into everyone’s mind and the audience laughed. It’s a clever question that has stuck with me since then; every time a nubile young female is seen with an older man, the same thought goes through my mind.

Would these gorgeous very young women be hanging onto the arm of Silvio Berlusconi, Mel Gibson or Ronnie Wood — especially Ronnie Wood! — if these men lived hand-to-mouth? Would these men have the same appeal? The same charm?

I don’t think so.

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Working From Home...It's Work!

Posted to by Naomi Dunne on Fri, 04/22/2011 - 7:38am

Remember when your mother told you that nothing good is ever easy? I hate to be the one to tell you this, but she was right.

I read a lot of blogs. Many of them are written by my competition and many by my potential clients. I read about people with craft businesses and web design businesses and freelance writing businesses and accounting businesses, and everything in between. If you can imagine it, someone's turned it into a business. I work with a pretty broad spectrum of humanity. One of the things I read and hear most often is the hugely pervasive myth that making money from home is easy.

This myth has always been prevalent. The internet did not create this idea, but it's certainly expanded it. Avon, Amway, Mary Kay, stuffing envelopes — the list started long before there was a computer in every home. Some of these businesses are legitimate and some of them are far from it, but one thing you can say for all of them is they ain't easy.

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Staying Focussed On The Long Term Picture

For emotional sanity and better financial security

Posted to by Maryann Kelly on Thu, 03/24/2011 - 7:28am

My best friend is French and very beautiful. Since we were 13 years old she could walk into a room and have every man desiring her.

At 44 she still has the same power so when she gives me advice on men I tend to listen. I rarely have men fawning all over me so she must know something. One thing she would always say to me when I was heart broken from a man and felt very sorry for myself was " there are no guarantees in marriage or any realtionship".

That used to get me very upset and indignant because after all, when two people make a promise to each other that should be binding and last forever...right? Well not necessasarily.

One of the things many women do during and after divorce is feel sorry for themselves and angry at their ex. That's a very costly state of being both financially and emotionally. It can even lead to health problems. The sooner we can acknowledge there are no guarantees in life, the sooner we can move on with our lives.

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5 Key Steps To Successful Time Management Through Divorce

Posted to by Laura Campbell on Wed, 02/02/2011 - 5:47am

As a woman navigating divorce, we're often confronted with juggling a million different tasks, emotions, appointments and dealines — it's enough to drive anyone crazy. If you're a mother going through divorce, you can easily times the amount of weight on your shoulders by two, maybe three, and easily find yourself overwhelmed.

Whether is managing your job (or looking for one), managing your children and their schedules, finding time to exercize and keep fit, maybe even dealing with the possibility of a new relationship — you can quickly find yourself wondering, "how am I supposed to do all of this?

Have you ever felt that way? I have….many, many times! And…I am happy to say, that I have learned how to manage all of this and much more!

The following five steps are the first that you will need to master so that you can begin to focus your TIME and ATTENTION on ALL of the areas of your life that need your management.

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Defining Real Versus Fake Authority During Divorce

4 tips to understanding real control

Posted to by Dr. Fern Kazlow on Wed, 12/29/2010 - 8:32am

Divorce can send you reeling. You may have moved, household items have been divided, routines are broken, families are split, support systems have disappeared.

It's easy to feel overwhelmed by emotions and the amount of work that needs to be done. Your kids are looking to you for more and you're not sure you can even take care of yourself. You struggle to be in control, go into hyper-drive to get a handle on things and still feel lost and no more in control than when you started, right? That's because acting in control is not being in control.

The difference is...

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