Women's Divorce Support Groups Online: Quotes of the Day

Posted to House Bloggers by First Wives World on Wed, 11/03/2010 - 5:58pm

This is a group for all of us to post the quotes that make us feel good; from spirtual, inspirational, and funny things that make laugh to things that make you go ..." Huh.."

THE GEOGRAPHY OF A WOMAN:

Between 18 & 22, a woman is like Africa, half dicovered, half wild, fertile & naturally beautiful.
Between 23 & 30, a woman is like Europe, well developed and open to trade, especially for someone with cash.
Between 31 & 35, a woman is like Spain, very hot, relaxed and convinced of her own beauty.
Between 36 & 40, a woman is like Greece, gently aging but still a warm and desirable place to visit.
Between 41 & 50, a woman is like Great Britain, with a glorious and all conquering past.
Between 51 & 60, a woman is like Israel, has been through the war and doesn't make the same mistakes twice, takes care of business.
Between 61 & 70, a woman is like Canada, self-preserving, but open to meeting new people.
After 70, she becomes Tibet, a wildly beautiful, with a mysterious past and the wisdom of the ages... only those with an adventurous spirit and a thirst for spiritual knowledge visit there.

THE GEOGRAPHY OF A MAN:

Between 1 and 70, a man is like Iran, Ruled by Nuts.

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My husband said he wants out

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Mon, 12/03/2012 - 9:01am.

My husband said he wants out of our marriage. I am so sad I can't even function. I yell at the kids even when they don't deserve it. He is in a relationship with someone else and it kills me inside. I really want to stay married. What can I do? I need help, I can't even breathe properly.

It will hurt a long time and

Submitted by Anne marie (not verified) on Thu, 01/03/2013 - 6:50pm.

It will hurt a long time and only time will help at this time. Do the best you can each day, try not to take it out on the kids. They are going thru it with you. It is not easy, it dosen' t make sence and it is not fair or right. You have to pull yourself together and be as strong as you can. Each day will pass. Talk to your friends,run, yell. Do what you can. It takes a long time.good luck, I will pray for you and your children.

Reaching out

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Fri, 10/12/2012 - 5:42pm.

I have been married for 20 years. It is my second marriage and when I met this man I never intended to remarry BUT he seemed wonderful, caring, etc. The only "fly" in the ointment from the beginning was his daughter but she was 18 and lived in CA so it seemed like a small thing. We had a good life but he never had much interest in sex and gradually there was nothing. I begged him to get help but he refused and wouldn't touch me. Things got really bad a couple of years ago when he refused to do anything, or go anywhere with me. He became increasingingly angry and abusive. Suddenly at the beginning of August of this year I noticed that his cell phone seemed not to be where he normally kept it. After a few days I started to wonder about this and went looking, low and behold the call log showed call after call to a woman. Long story short, I got the cell phone records from AT&T and discovered that he was talking to this woman for hours everyday. I started searching the house, found cards, and worse, a credit card that he took out in my name and ran up to $18,000. He took an alarming turn for the worse in behavior and I started making plans to leave during a trip he had planned. I did it, left, with just my belongings, my dogs, one cat and left everything else behind, including many beloved animals. I'm camped out in my sister's house but I am so MAD!!! The woman is younger, he took out a restraining order against me even though I was gone and did nothing the court granted this so I can't even go back to my own home. He also petitioned the court for sole custody of the house. Has anyone ever heard of this. I started therapy this week and she suggesting I seek out an online support group. Thoughts anyone.

I really need someone to talk to

Submitted by kaytoy (not verified) on Mon, 10/08/2012 - 9:16am.

I have been married for 36 years. We've had the normal ups and downs. I have never had the luxury of staying at home. I have worked a full time job since before we were married. At one time, I worked full time, part time, went to college full time, and took care of our daughter and family all at the same time. Our only child is married now. Two years ago, everything was rocking along fine (as normal for us). Then I decided to trade my car. He never said "no, we don't need to do this now", or "you really shouldn't now", etc. I knew he didn't think I needed to trade, but I worked and I saved the money on my own for a new car. The day after I traded, he just came in....said "that's it, we are separating all the money....you have yours to do with what you want....I'll have mine...then you spend yours just like you want". (I have NEVER asked him for money..we've always deposited into a checking account to pay the bills, and what was left out of his check was his, and mine was mine. But he went ballistic. He forced me to cash in all CD's, stocks, savings, and we split everything except 401Ks and IRAs. I did it out of fear that he would cash in everything himself and take all the money. He is EXTREMELY greedy about money. This man will eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches every meal to keep from having to buy a meal out. Everything is money with him. We don't use a clothes dryer because it burns too much electricity. Now that he's separated everything, if I want to buy our 1 year old grandaughter something, I have to pay for it. He's too cheap. My biggest rub is when we go to buy groceries...I may pick up grapes or strawberries, and I have to hear, "do you really need those?". We used to go out every Sunday for lunch after church. All he wants to eat is a sandwich because it is cheaper. I just can't stand his selfish, greediness. He has an addiction to money. He hoards it. We never go anywhere because it costs money. I mean we never go anywhere. I have slowly over the past 2 years cut my feelings for him a little at a time, thinking if we do divorce, it won't hurt so bad. I don't want to live the rest of my life like this. I want a husband who truly loves me and who wants to enjoy life and get out and do things. I want a husband who is not afraid to take part in church activities, be a deacon, take up offering, or whatever. Just do something. I am seriously contemplating leaving. I'm so scared though. I feel like I am on the edge of a river. The river is the divorce process that I must go through to get to the other side. And though I know in my heart I will be so much better off emotionally once I get to the other side, I am just too scared to jump in. I don't want to go through what I will have to go through to get to the other side. Please help me. I have thought many times of suicide, but I am a Christian and I know I cannot do that. I can't see going through the fight. Who gets this, who gets that...I'm afraid I will have to move...my house is paid for..why should I have to jump out and pay rent and find a place to live? I don't have the strength to fight this battle.

Where to go from here.

Submitted by Myst (not verified) on Wed, 09/05/2012 - 5:02pm.

I am in the process of a divorce after 18 years of marriage. My soon to be ex-husband found a 20 year old so I get tossed to the side. My twins are split between our homes and as of right now I am left with almost nothing of the material possessions we collected over the course of the 20 years we were actually together. I was abused as a child by my father and had terrible depression. It also didn't help that it had been years since he touched me sexually. Yes, I admit, I was NOT happy in the marriage, but to be cast aside like this was SO painful, not just to me but my children too. He now lives in the house that we built together with her and one of my twins, who he is working on brainwashing against me, and I live with my sister in another state with the other twin and we are just trying to survive. The twin that lives with me told him right off what he was doing was wrong so he basically kicked her out too. The flaunt all the things they are buying together and he allows her to send horrible texts and messages to me to twist the knife in my back. The pain is so horrible and is not helping the depression I already had from a horrible childhood. I want to move past all this and start a whole new life but with all these terrible messages I get, it is hard. I just want the pain to end.

Stop reading the text. You

Submitted by Anne marie (not verified) on Thu, 01/03/2013 - 6:54pm.

Stop reading the text. You daughter can see what happens. Pray, take walks, don't let the depression take what is left of you. You need to do this.

about to divorce

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Mon, 08/13/2012 - 11:24pm.

you break it to the man that you want a divorce? you've been married 8 years. Together 13 years. you are not in love with him anymore. You don't know if you ever were. You settled for security. he is mentally abusive. controlling. jealous. negative. other than that a great guy you don't love him. he badgers and harasses you until you give into his desires and controlling nature . your kids don't want the divorce. How do you make it happen and get over the guilt ?

Am I doing the right thing here

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Fri, 07/13/2012 - 12:08pm.

Hi All, I am about to file for divorce now. Here is the background. I have been married for 1 year and 2 months now. It started out as an arranged marriage but after fixing the marriage date, his mom created problems saying some religious pastor had prophesized that i had some health issues and thereby wanted to stop it. But my husband wanted it to happen,I initially wanted to call it off but after 2 months of confusion he had emotionally brought me to such a stage wherein he suggested register marriage and i actually set a date even before the actually planned date and we got married with his friend's help. That would remain the stupidest decision of my life. We continued to live separately and revealed the marriage to my family only after a month. My family though shocked agreed to his plan wherein they conducted a small prayer ceremony with a few close relatives around and left me with him in his house in another city. He told his family only after a few days and then he realised he wanted his family in his life more than me and started threatening me with divorce after a week of living together. After that i got a transfer to his city, problems escalated he kept on threatening with divorce for almost everything. I have lived separately for 3 months, was then made to go back because of my family's pressure. There has been no stability at all in the marriage from the start. His mom had talked derogatorily about my character and yet he wants me to mingle with this family. He himself speaks very vulgarly and says only my family wouldnt be able to hear it and run away and his family is anyway capable of speaking more vulgar.In short he feels i am trapped. I have shifted 3 houses in the past 6 months because of all the problems.In the midst of all this he always wanted to raise a family. He is 34 and i am 26 and i had told him i want time to first make sure this relationship will sustain as he constantly threatens to divorce if anything doesnt happen his way. We had been having normal physical relationships but using protection yet he now denies it amounts to nothing at all and demanded a medical test a few weeks back to prove i am fertile. He said this in front of my parents and also said he doesnt want to live with me anymore but at the sametime he wouldnt initiate the divorce. So my parents have now agreed to help me to get the divorce. I have never been happy even for a day in this relationship. He had threatened me with even hurting my family using goondas. If at all things dont go his way he always threatens with divorce, he denies whatever wrong his family does and now even says if u dont want to take medical test come lets have a baby immediately. In between, he always acts all charming and says he doesnt mean anything he says during the fights. He tries to convince me that only i am overreacting. His family also has a history of not getting their children married off so easily. His elder brother had an engagement of 2 yrs which they broke off. So i think they always trigger him to control me more. I know i cant survive in this family or with him. I am from India and girls are advised to be more tolerant here.Just need some reassurance to know i am doing the right thing here by getting a divorce.

really laughed

Submitted by heyruthie (not verified) on Thu, 03/15/2012 - 10:21pm.

OMG. Thank you. I REALLY didn't see that coming, and I REALLY needed it.

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