Single in the City: Where Are All the Decent Men?
Single in the City: Where Are All the Decent Men?
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I wonder if men would change their behavior if they could be a woman for just one day.
This thought occurred to me as I was walking in downtown New York this morning.
Still in my pajamas, donning a big, billowy winter coat and hat with a cup of coffee in my hand waiting for the walk sign, a man stops his car at the light, rolls down the window and shouts, "Yeah, baby" and "I'd like to get a piece of that."
His hollering then provokes the other cat callers in the neighborhood, and trust me, there are enough of them.
Yuck.
All I feel is gross and embarrassed as I try to quickly scurry up the block.
And how else should anyone feel?
Do these people actually expect me to feel flattered? Does that man think that just maybe I'll approach his car window and give him my phone number — or even the time of day?
What's even more shocking is that this kind of behavior is everywhere. It's in the cities, the country, it's even in other countries. The fact that it's so prevalent leads me to believe one of two things: One, that someway, somehow this kind of behavior gets desirable results. Meaning that this kind of talk works on some women. Or, two, these people are just stupid — or worse. I don't know.
All I do know for sure is that now that I'm single, men not only look at me differently, they treat me differently. If I had been walking down the street with Levi this morning, nobody would have dared to say anything. (I wish I could say the same if I were walking with my two year old son, but unfortunately, a child doesn't deter them.)
I guess I had forgotten what it's like to be a single girl out there.
I'm not sure I like it.
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