My Husband: Enough Embarrassment for Both of Us
My Husband: Enough Embarrassment for Both of Us
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There are the times, usually carefully chosen, when I feel I have to say something to my husband, even if it hurts. On the way home from a recent dinner party: "Honey, the Carters have been telling us since last fall that their son Justin has his heart set on Brown."
"They are calling in all their chits in hopes of getting the dorky kid in there," he says.
"So when you dis Brown, and say his choice of college doesn't really matter, well sweetie, it kind of brought the dinner party conversation to a dead halt.
"Did you notice? Brown seems very important to them. Maybe next time you could say, 'Brown — great school. Fingers and toes crossed for you!'"
That's when he will jam on the brakes a block from our house and call me elitist. And then he'll get defensive: "I'll say whatever I want to say."
"Honey," I respond, "let's just play the game. Even though the less-than-brilliant Justin will never get into Brown.
"Who are we to burst their bubble?
"This is not rocket science, honey. It's just a social grace. Can't you just play along?"
Things like this are minor irritants, taken one at a time. But if he thinks those things don't add up in a small town, he is mistaken. I point that out — again, because these are the people we have chosen to live among.
The town we picked, the street we claim as ours. With neighbors — flawed like the rest of us. It's our village.
All I am asking for is peace in the village. Where our kids, a few years down the road, will dream big, dream a bit beyond our means.
So I want him to quit embarrassing himself. Actually, to quit embarrassing us.
Rules: Keep it down to two glasses of wine.
Skip the tequila.
We can always get snarky about poor Justin on the ride home.
I tell him, "I don't like kicking you under the table any more than you like being kicked."
"And stop calling me Nancy Reagan."
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