A happily married man is writing a book about cougars (I hate that word) and called last week to talk to me. Stop it — he did not get my number from the men's bathroom. I haven't even hit the West Coast yet. My job? To help him separate the media hype from the reality of cougars.

Charles Orlando from San Francisco, who is hopelessly in love with his wife and kids, is writing, The Problem with Women... is Men: The Evolution of a Man's Man to a Man of Higher Consciousness. It's an in-depth look into stereotypic men today and the challenges women have surviving with them and/or finding one that's good enough to keep.

The book is entirely from a man's point-of-view and experience and interestingly points out that young women are the ones most threatened by the cougar "because she looks much like they do yet has what they don't — confidence, financial means, security, command of her sexuality, and a strong sense of self."

Check out his article on cougars and MILFs where he reports "I spoke with a number of self-identifying cougars that were clear that they were after younger guys purely for fun. But I also spent time with Debbie Nigro, who summed things up beautifully: "When women are in their 20s, they are looking to procreate with... when they are in their 40s, they are looking for someone to recreate with."

By the way, if I may say something to all the lovely young women of the world, it is this: We women who have moved on ahead of you are hopefully showing you that you can be fabulous until the end of time if you choose. You will become us soon, so pay attention, we are on your side (wink).

Remember — Attitude is Everything!

Debbie