Dating After Divorce Is Never Easy

If you're divorced and you have kids, there's a good chance that you may find yourself tackling one of the most delicate issues there is in post-divorce life: dating.

I read an article yesterday that does a pretty good job of addressing all of the key points on this subject. You have to remember that your post-divorce dating life is probably going to be tougher on your kids that it is on you. Regardless of their age, kids deal with a lot of emotions when a divorced parents start dating again.

The way you and your ex co-parent through your divorce can go a long way toward easing the difficulty for your kids when you do want to date again. If you've made sure they understand that their feelings matter to you, the whole thing will probably be easier for them to handle.

But the experts quoted in the story point out that a lot of divorced parents make the mistake of either trying to "get back out there" too soon or introducing dates to their kids too soon. You have to leave enough time after your divorce to settle into your "new" life. You and your kids all need time to get used to the way things work now that the marriage is over. If you start dating before that happens, you're asking for trouble.

If you have kids, I don't think you really have the freedom to approach dating as you did before your marriage. And that sucks. You're probably going to resent it. And nobody can blame you for that. But your kids should be your first consideration, and your choices should be guided by the effort to do right by them.

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