Holiday Travel Math Problems?

If your brother has a girlfriend from Tampa, whose family lives in Pennsylvania, your parents live in Orlando but don't want to go north for the holidays and you live in New York City, but have already committed to your fiancé's family festivities in Minneapolis, where is the central meeting point?

Ohio?

I don't know anyone there.

I grew up in Wisconsin, with family an hour or so away. When I was a kid, the hour in the car was torture, but everyone was together for Thanksgiving and Christmas. I am now 31 years old, and this will be my first Christmas where I will not see my parents.

Now, my fiancé has a very large family, with step-siblings and the whole works. Plus, he doesn't get back to see them very often, so the holidays are especially busy for him. Christmas is his birthday, so I understand why his Mom would want to see him.

I realize that change is inevitable, but this one in particular does not make me happy. As the oldest child, I feel an innate responsibility to try and coordinate holiday schedules as best as we can. And maybe this is the best that we can do this year. The challenge is that the entire family is all over the country, not just an hour down the road anymore.

If any readers have ideas on creative travel and scheduling, I'd really appreciate some feedback. Any suggestions from those who also have family scattered?