Well, the invitations went out for the wedding. I wanted a small wedding of 75 guests or so, but 300 people were invited to the big day. The RSVPs are arriving and there are way more people coming than we ever thought since, we are hosting a destination wedding.

This is my fiancé's first wedding and my second. My guest list was a lot smaller than his, but many of those invited attended my first wedding. That means they bought me a gift.

Etiquette says that these guests are not required to bring another gift to my second wedding. I looked it up on the "official" wedding dos and don'ts on The Knot, a Web site my fiancé knew about and I didn't. I know, I'm a bad bride.

Anyway, I am not sure how to bring this up to my friends and family. I talked to my mom and she said people will want to give us something because they like my fiancé so much. Which is all well and good, but I feel sorta like a mooch.

Am I supposed to send out a little email notification before the wedding to my peeps or post a short message on our registry? I am hoping that word gets out and folks don't feel obligated to bring a gift.