Occasionally, looking at a situation with a different perspective can be extremely refreshing.

When I went through my divorce, I was really hung up on "How did I get here?" I thought I was a pretty intelligent young woman and could read people relatively well, too. I was very hard on myself because I felt like a complete failure at love.

Funny, how time mends your heart and hurt feelings drift farther and farther away. Then someday a friend will say to you, "Well, look at the bright side, at least now you know what you don't want." Good point, right?

Truly, now that you have gone through the painful process of divorce, you can evaluate other men in a way you didn't before. You can possibly avoid the characteristics that your ex possessed that you didn't care for and choose a more suitable match. It may take time, and I can't say that dating is always fun.

Look at it like a buffet: You can always go back and try something else, and if it all goes to hell, you can still have as many desserts as you want.

As I prepare to enter my second marriage, I see that my current choice is much better. I have found someone whom I truly love, but whom I am also compatible with. We're very close friends and respect each other. I had none of this with my ex.