In the stroller was your standard adorable toddler, but this time, it produced a slightly different reaction from me. I felt something — a flip of the switch or some equivalent. For a second, I actually pondered what it would be like to have one.
I mean really think about it, to the point where even my sexual fantasies— remember the 30-something power surge is in full effect right now— were permeated with the idea of conception. Motherhood — childbirth included — figures nowhere into my grand scheme of things. It was never even a blip on the radar.
Why I'm having these thoughts here and now, I can't help but wonder. It always seems as if life has decided to interfere with my progress at the most inopportune times. Here I am, halfway between thesis hell and the next step — whatever that may be. I have no viable income, no significant other (and no insignificant other, for that matter), with this strange tick and no idea what to make of it.
Nothing. That's what I suppose I'll make of it. Maybe if I ignore the twinge, it will go away. I should also try to imagine myself pregnant, or better yet — I should envision the childbirth process. I'm sure that will quash the thoughts. Onward and upward...
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I hear ya - at 36, my clock kicked in. I am happily engaged to the man of my dreams but children are not in our plans. Sure we could change those plans but honestly, I see the tick not as a sign to have children but as mere validation that the biological clock actually exists. Now, every time I see an adorable child and think "that looks nice," I remind myself that what looks much nicer are the years of travel, financial freedom, sleeping late, and having sex at any time of the day or night that NOT having children allows.
- Lisa
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I couldn't agree with you more. Those are the exact same feelings I have, and pretty much the same conclusion I came to. I am perfectly content with other people's kids (that I can give back at the end of the day). I do enjoy the freedom I have by not having kids, and can't fathom having to give that up. Yes, I think kids are adorable, and I do enjoy them (when they aren't kicking the back of my airplane seat for 45 minutes straight), but the thought of having one of my own is still not something I aspire to.
Cheers to you, Lisa
Akillah