I’ve moved on — why hasn’t everyone else? I realized that during my week of frenzied interviews. All nine interviewers asked me the same question: “So you were in the military. How was that?”

After I gave a quick explanation, they began the interrogation, prodding me for scenarios that were much sexier than anything I experienced.

Their questions were intrusive, probably because they knew nothing about the military.

I made me a little uncomfortable.

I find it’s the same thing when I talk about my divorce. What people want to hear is the dirt. When there’s nothing to give them, they treat me as a hostile witness.

Why does everything have to be sensational? And if my anecdotes happened to be sensational, what gives them the right to be privy to that information?

Ah, you say, but you write for a divorce website.

Sure. But how often do I speak about divorce?

For me, the point is to focus on life afterward.

And trust me — there is so much life after divorce.