One Sister Gets Hitched, The Other Ditched and Must Sell the House, Pronto

It’s weird how life plays out.

As my younger sister, Anne, prepares for her wedding (it’s her first!) later this year and is in the middle of buying her first home, I’m working to put my life back together following a divorce and trying desperately to sell the home John and I once shared.

And, unfortunately, the task is growing increasingly difficult.

The family of three who made an offer on the house returned to the negotiating table. However, their offer was still too low for me to accept. I had already dropped my asking price and I can’t afford to go much lower.

And to throw salt into my wounds, John informs me that his finances are so tight that it’s likely that I’ll have to come up with twice as much money as him to pay off the bank when an offer does come in. He tells me he just won’t have the funds. It’s true, and his career situation is another chapter for another day, but what really set me off was when he informed me that he’s been approved for a fairly sizeable loan to consolidate his credit cards. And do you think he plans to set aside some of that money—even a small fraction of it—to help pay off the bank when we sell our house?

NO.

It’s so typical of him. Our marriage counselor nailed it on the head when he said John was a narcissist.

He created this entire situation by having a fling, yet he can’t cough up the extra cash to help get us—me—out of this house and out of this situation once and for all. Oh, he says he will do what he can (Translation: We’ll see who, if anyone, will loan him the money) to help pay off the bank, but it'll be tough. Don’t count on it).

I do know one thing: It will be a VERY long time before I intertwine my finances and assets with another guy. It just doesn’t seem worth it!

I hope my sister never goes through this.