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Playing Catch Up
The fact of the matter is, I have done things a bit "out of sequence." Marriage and divorce were some of the first things I accomplished, even before dating — figure that one out. Many years later, school followed. Now lastly is the dating "thing" bringing up the rear.
Being a perfectionist to the Nth degree — as so many of us are — I have this annoying habit of not doing things at all if there is the slightest chance of not doing them well. That keeps dating at the very bottom of the list, though I'm quite proud that I haven't stricken it completely.
It also caused me to put my education on snooze for many years. Being that this is my MO — and has been for many years — I can't help but feel that somehow I have missed some piece of info or some experience that everyone who went through the regular channels knows about.
I know I'm not the first woman to do things this way, and I know I won't be the last. To those of you who have already passed through the phase, I ask: When does it start to feel like things are falling back into line? When does one's life regain that sense of balance, and dare I say, "normalcy?"
Me too
I had kids young and, when I realized my family's lack of funds for, basically, anything, was trend due to continue I went to law school (paid for by my father). Eventually I was a first year associate in my 30's and my "colleagues" were 20-somethings with one foot still in the fraternity and off to Happy Hour they would go while I went home to my then-husband and elementary school girls. But it's evened out now in my 40's (and I've noticed those then 20-somethings have web-site pictures showing their graying hair).
I also lived life out of
I also lived life out of sync; baby, marriage, divorce, school. Although the rollercoaster ride is starting to flatline, I'm not sure I'll ever be considered normal.
catch up
'Normal' is all relative, isn't it? I went through the usual channels--college, boyfriend, marriage, children, husband's mid-life crisis, divorce. I'm not sure I know what constitutes normal any more. But I do know that old adage about time healing has been very true for me. Balance? As long as there are teenager around here, that's not happening any time soon!