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I need some advice. I called Levi to tell him that Adrian was admitted into the hospital, and may need surgery. He didn't answer his phone, so I left him a message explaining all of the details and the number that I can be reached at. I haven't heard from him, and I'm not surprised.
Today, however, Levi's sister Erica sent Adrian two bouquets of balloons and two stuffed animals. I didn't tell her that Adrian's in the hospital, so I'm assuming Levi relayed that to her.
I haven't spoken to Erica since Levi informed her that she was not allowed to communicate with me or have a relationship with Adrian. I believe that was back in August.
I'm very disappointed with the way she conducted herself, and I'm disgusted that she allowed Levi to have so much control over her that she stopped speaking to me, or taking any interest in Adrian. I've sort of lumped them all — Levi's family and friends — together in my brain as, to quote George Bush, "the axis of evil". I really hold nothing but contempt for these people.
I don't know what this gesture means. It's confusing the hell out of me and I'd just as soon choose to ignore it. However, some friends and family of mine seem to think that I must at least thank her.
I don't want to thank her. I don't want to engage with these people at all. What do you think? Do I have to say thank you?
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Faith, I would tell Levi to
Faith,
I would tell Levi to thank her for you. That way he knows she made contact and you don't have to. I hope you are getting some rest and Adrian is feeling somewhat better.
Randie
I agree with Randie's reply.
I agree with Randie's reply. It's important to acknowledge the gesture and rise above their horrible behavior. I hope your son is feeling better.
Don't be damaged goods!
First of all, I understand your mixed emotions about the balloons. That said, when a kid is in the hospital, all of a sudden the crap between adults seems a bit insignifigant. I'm guessing that is why she decided to take the high road, and sent the gift.
That said, of course you say thank you.
You need to remember, his friends and family are all hearing HIS side of the story. Your probably couldn't even imagine the horrible things your ex is saying about you.
That's why it is imperative for you to ALWAYS act the way you would --- before you were injured by your ex. Don't choose to be DAMAGED GOODS. Be yourself, remember who you were before your ex drug your life through the mud and find her again.
Only then will you find happiness. Plus, you are setting a good example for your child and ALL the people in your life who act like children. :) Good luck to you!
I would thank Erica
Worst case -- you thank her for her gift and things remain as they always were. But, the best case if you respond, is that she will find the courage to rise above the pressure she feels from her family and get to know her nephew which will benefit him. So I think that you should send a heartfelt "thank you".
thank her kindly
Put another notch in genuine thank you column. Don't play games by sending a thank you via Levi - that's taking it down to his level. Step it up.
I couldn't agree more with the person who said worst case you do the right thing and nothing changes. Best case you create an opening for your son to develop a relationship with his aunt.
Thankful
My question to you would be, are you thankful for the gesture? If it was someone else, would you say thank you to them? If so, say thanks. Or, probably what I would do on my children's behalf, is write a brief thank you note, with a handprint...
She might feel just as badly that her brother is trying to disassociate herself from her nephew....
You never know.
Taylor Raine
Thanks...
Thanks for the advice ladies -- Looks like I have to say thank you!!
Write or Tell Her Thank You
Remind her she's still his aunt.