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Regaining Self-Esteem After Divorce

Posted to House Bloggers by Vicky Emerson on Mon, 11/19/2007 - 10:00am
I distinctly remember going through my closet after my divorce was finalized and purging. I even got rid of my wedding dress — something I have not regretted.

My ex and I dated for three years, and we were married for another three before we divorced. I was 26, single, and my self-esteem was at an all-time low. I would look in the mirror and wonder aloud, "Will a guy ever find me attractive?"

I hit the gym, went shopping, and slowly began going out with my single gal pals. At first, I was so awkward around men. It was if I had to relearn how to flirt again and read the signs that someone was interested. For months, I watched and learned from my skilled single friends.

During those months, I slowly became more sure of myself. I felt better physically. I knew it would be a long road, but at least I had begun the process of healing emotionally.

As I became more confident, it was so much easier to communicate with the opposite sex. Rebuilding your self-esteem after a divorce can seem very daunting, but I know it can be done. It is a process, not a realization that miraculously occurs overnight. So, if you're going through this process now, please know you're not alone and take it day by day.

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