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How Do You Really Feel About Cheating?

Posted to House Bloggers by Rhonda Harris on Mon, 01/21/2008 - 6:00pm

I am curious about how other woman feel about this sensitive subject. I know we all sit around and say "I would never take that", "He would be out of here", and on and on.

I am genuinely interested in finding out what the number of woman who have actually experienced this have to say about staying or leaving. I am currently helping my daughter get some information for a paper she is preparing for college.

Not trying to take a political turn, but when the whole Bill Clinton thing happened, I was young and headstrong and firmly believed that Hillary should have hit the door. Now, a few — or more — years later, I find I understand the sacrifice she made to stay. The door probably wouldn't have been the most productive option. But is that alone reason enough to stay? Because of what could be lost?

On the other hand, do we leave and hope for the best? Maintain our pride and set the bar high as to what is unacceptable behavior? Learn from our mistakes and never look back?

I find I'm torn on this subject. My ex never followed through on any acts of infidelity, but it wasn't for lack of trying. I'm certain that had the opportunity presented itself at the right time I would be telling a completely different story.

I still felt the hurt of watching him flirt with other woman in my presence. I was so angry over that alone. I'm not sure I could have possibly ever forgiven him completely had anything more actually happened.

That makes me wonder if the women who stay are just more forgiving than others are. Maybe more able to move beyond and not hold a grudge. I hope I never have to find out first hand.

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