My fiancé's family is divorced and his parents both come from large families. So, Christmas is not what you would call relaxing. We went to five Christmas parties on Christmas Day. That's a lot of meatballs and deviled eggs, for those of you not from the Midwest. I was already missing my own family, and this didn't help.

His father has five sisters and as soon as I stepped into their party, they swarmed around me like a pack of wolves. They want to throw a bridal shower for me back in Minnesota. Because I perform publicly, my schedule is on the Internet for the whole world to see. The whole world includes my future in-laws so I can't get out of it by telling them I'm busy.

I realize they have good intentions, but I didn't really enjoy my first wedding's bridal shower and I would prefer to finish planning my second wedding and not worry about yet another party. As I left the party, they reminded me about 50 times to let them know what weekend would work and my future father-in-law has called me every day. I'm thrilled to be getting married again and I'm thrilled about my upcoming wedding. I'm just not so thrilled about all the other things that go along with it.

Help me please?