Chasing Your Dream

Posted to Community by First Wives World on Tue, 07/31/2012 - 9:08am

You are facing a deep profound heartache and a huge discouragement because you hold on to a picture, a dream of the way you hoped your life would turn out.

Fear enters our minds especially now when our lives are changing direction, when we hold on so tightly to those hopes, those dreams, the ones we thought our futures should have been.

In those unexpected shattered-dreams, moments that have provided us with twist and turns in life, we rarely want to surrender control but we realize we have no control.

We must learn to move on with our heads held high. We must find that inner strength, even if we don't believe that it's there.

There's a lot about what happens to us in life that we cannot control. What we can control is our willingness to seek a better dream in the midst of all the craziness.

We must see our dreams for the future as what they are- possibilities and promises and goals, not sources of our peace and security. It means our confidence is no longer in our ability to achieve each one of our dreams, but within our strength we can reach those goals.

Your past, no matter how much you want to hold on, should be held with open hands. Your dreams are those that you need to hold on to, grasp tightly to them, and achieve them.

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struggling

Submitted by Guest (not verified) on Sat, 01/12/2013 - 8:41pm.

I was medicated with ssris and antianxiety meds most of my marriage. Divorced now for 5 and a half yrs now - and off the meds a few mos - the depression and anxiety have hit hard. Still no job. Ex remarried. Kids lived with him - they are adults now. They moved out and in with him after being mad at me for enforcing rules. They estranged from me for several months on and off. Now they are going to move on from him and out of state - at least my oldest. I have to leave the house I lived in with him now and have no job. Have to move home. I have to leave my kids prematurely and we are just smoothing things over. I am so afraid. I never felt so much depression over my marriage until now. I dont want to move home. I have tried meditation and it helps some. But I regret the divorce - and I cant fix what happened nor change it. He hates me and I always looked up to him - too much so. I have never truly been on my own for long. I am so afraid and cannot stop feeling I made a mistake and should have just lived with it. Nothing I recall felt as lonely as this. None of the men I dated since him were truly invested in me. I was used and discarded and realize I had someone when married. He remarried w in 2 yrs. And here I am alone and ending up being at home soon w my elderly parents far from where my kids live. I try to be optomistic but this is so damned hard - I feel lost and old and alone and like my life is dead.

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