Here are my answers to questions posted by firstwivesworld.com bloggers:

From Naomi Dunne: We've replaced the traditional lightbulbs in our living room with CFLs and now the place is so white it looks like an office and not exactly romantic. Can you suggest some ways to warm up the space?

Naomi: It's true CFL bulbs do help lower your electric costs and are good for the environment but, at the cost of harsh, non-flattering, cold light. To combat this very cool white light, you must choose a color for the walls that absorb that cool light and refracts more warm toned light. One solution is to repaint your walls. If that's not possible, a very simple solution is to place a scarf in a warmer tone over the lamp to mask the harsh light and soften the tone in the room. Another way is to change the lamp shades to a warmer-hued fabric. If you can't find one ready-made, custom is the next option to explore.

From Megan Thomas: If I move out and into an apartment, my kids will go from having their own rooms to sharing one. What is the best way to decorate a room that a toddler boy and pre-school girl have to share?

Megan: A very simple way is to divide the room into two sides. For example one blue and one pink, to use an obvious color choice. If each child has their own bed, in this case you can decorate each side in the child's preference to make them feel the space is their own. Then try to incorporate decorative items in both colors on the opposite color side too unify the room. This is a fun and easy solution. Making a child feel at home in their own room is a challenging aspect of divorce but it can be done.

After a divorce, trying to re-establish your life has its drawbacks but you must look toward the future and turn your life around. With life coming at you hard every day, what you need is a place to escape and relax, when you get home.

For most women, the bedroom is their place of peace. This is the room that reflects the personality the, inner women. Interior design can truly help reflect the attitude of the client. There are so many possibilities and choices within the realm, of the interior design world. These choices can some times be difficult to decide upon on your own.

This is where the aid of a true design professional is beneficial. If your budget doesn't allow for the assistance of an interior designer for your entire project, another idea is to hire someone to help on a consultation basis. This is usually done on an hourly rate as apposed to a percentage based rate.

After establishing your budget, whether modest or extravagant, the next step to focus on what style. This is where your true personality comes to the surface. This creative step is an exercise about looking within your self and asking questions.

With what style do I feel comfortable and expressive, contemporary, antique, traditional, Asian or modern? What colors makes me happy? Do I respond to warm or cool color? What type of bed, four poster, platform, upholstered headboard, do I want to sleep in at night? Are my sheets, as soft as they could be? What thread count feels the best on my skin? Do I want a bench at the end of the bed or a chair, seating area, or a favorite reading spot, where I can relax and plan my day?

Hi... my name is Gregory Allan Cramer and I'm an interior designer. My job is to help people realize their visions, bringing them to life through design. Helping divorced clients reinvent themselves is a special talent. Of course listening is one of the key components. After careful consideration of the decorating options and once the practical discussions are over, that's when the real fun starts — shopping!

Starting over is hard enough, but when faced with an obstacle like divorce, a person can become very overwhelmed. People who try to tackle too many problems and projects at the same time tend not to get much done except think about all they have to do. I suffer from the same problem except I'm not getting divorced — I'm just trying to do too many projects at the same time!

Hiring an interior design professional is a step forward in starting your new post-divorce life. Having someone you can trust and confide in to make your home a sanctuary, a place to feel safe and relax in, will help you start the recovery process.

COLOR: One of the easiest ways to transform your space and one that has the biggest impact is color. Color is the soul of the space. Different colors can transform a blank canvas into an artistic vision. I'm very passionate about the use of color.

I've tried to do entire rooms and homes in beige but let me tell you, fuchsia is the new neutral in my book. Now, that might be a little too bold for some of you, but there are other alternatives.

Choosing the correct color to reflect your style is a very simple task. Think about what you love. It may be the hot sand in Miami, the winter snow in Colorado or the crisp, cool feel of the air on an autumn day in Vermont — each of these has a feeling of color associated with a place and time.

One of my dearest clients and her husband are in the midst of a nasty separation, which is leading to an even nastier divorce. At this juncture they are in a furniture battle, throwing things across the room. Yes, like "War of the Roses."

She is devastated. I tried to console her as best I could, but to no avail. Finally, I had a better idea: Let's go shopping. With that, the twinkle came back into her eyes.

I felt she needed antique lighting to properly illuminate her new loft. So we rode up to Stamford, CT to The Hiden Galleries. These types of antique galleries are great resources. Everything is in one location, from lighting to rugs to sofas. It was instant retail therapy. We found many little treasures to help jumpstart her new life in the new apartment.

Don't forget that small changes can make a dramatic difference to the way you feel. Everyone has a different idea about interior design. My own belief has always been to make my clients feel comfortable, and at home in their own space, regardless of the size or the budget.

But of course the budget can be a big factor. The real trick is to not break the bank and achieve the same results with a modest amount. It can be very challenging, but with a little creativity, wonders never cease.

Women who have recently become separated or divorced face a very different kind of design dilemma. Creating a new place that is yours alone, whether by choice or not, is a difficult challenge. However, with some inspiration and expert advice, it can be done.

Here are 10 simple things you can do to reclaim your existing space or make a new space more comfortable:

1. Remove all old photos that remind you of the ex.