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Ouch

Guest — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 23:22:00 -0400

My heart is hurting for you along with myself. Same story, but year 5 and now in year 10. I had no signs though, just found out suddenly and had my heart ripped out. How do we go on like this? I haven't... He is out of the house and I already have divorce papers ready and it has only been 24 hours. The first time I was willing to work through it. We did the counseling, the journaling, the heart to hearts, but here I am with three kids and I will have to find a way to make it. Both of his affairs started while I was pregnant with my last two children, what better time to betray, right... The first time we were having lots of problems and I convinced myself that I deserved some blame, this time our marriage has been happy and strong and I realized that it has nothing to do with me. No matter how strong our marriage is, he is weak and selfish. He won't change as long as you stay because he doesn't have to. Be strong, you deserve better.

Ha!

Sarah Farthing — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 17:09:14 -0400

I had the exact same reaction during my first Hot Yoga class. How can you hold those poses when there's sweat pouring off every inch of your body? I felt like I was going to pass out several times. Now I take regular Vinyasa Yoga classes and I'm much happier. I'm just not wired for Hot Yoga. I'll be pretty impressed if you go back.

a friend

Guest — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 21:59:34 -0400

What a cute story, and the depth...you really are a good friend and how refreshing to know they still exist. Blessings.... Dorothy from grammology

WARNING!!! DANGER WILL ROGERS, DANGER!!!

sandyrbonner — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 11:28:39 -0400

My husband has worked overseas for the last 4 years, it was supposed to be 1 year only. He is also in a place that family cannot follow. It is also how he met his mistresses, including the one he supposedly had a son with (even his own family says the child looks nothing like him and has urged him to get DNA done). If you want to have any hope of salvaging your relationship, your husband needs to ditch this job IMMEDIATELY!! The women they meet and fall into bed with have only one thought ...a free ride to the United States. I've been through it already, and it has taken me the entire 4 years to finally admit that the man who went overseas is not the man who came home. I filed for divorce last month. By the way, we had a VERY strong relationship when he left and would have never imagined the events that have taken place in his life.

Life in an Employment-Defined Vacuum

Akillah Wali — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 11:19:54 -0400

I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I know how hard it is: you try not to let the job define you, sometimes being downright insistent that it doesn't. When the rubber meets the road, you find out how much you were wrong, and are left searching for your soul AND a new job. Irony of ironies, we now have two full-time jobs that pay absolutely nothing. My family is also scattered to the four winds, but I find that having them so far helps me remain a little more focused on the things I need to do for myself. I know they love and support me, and would do it from wherever they happened to be. Hang in there. Things will get better - they have to ;)

The Hole in my Soul

Guest — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 11:47:44 -0400

I feel your pain. After 21 years at the same company I was severed 6 months ago and am still unable to find employment. Having no job or close family nearby, I feel like I'm in an abyss of nothingness; one day runs into the next..is it Saturday or Wednesday? Sad how much our jobs define us!

I also wish you courage -

Guest — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 19:20:23 -0400

I also wish you courage - to say or do what you feel is right. I'm recently divorced, very different situation (open marriage). I feel better now. I feel 'right'. I can't speak to your situation. I'm just sorry that you are hurting.

I love a story with a happy ending...

Cathy Meyer — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 17:35:13 -0400

What a clever, resourceful woman you are! Hopefully, after all that you are also a satisfied woman.

LMAO! "I leave with a black

Guest — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 12:50:02 -0400

LMAO! "I leave with a black satin bag, a bottle of Slippery Kitty lube and – note how good my friends are to me – a two-cup coffee maker." That's the secret recipe to life, right there! RBYS

So, did the Rabit satisfy?

KarenC — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 12:11:05 -0400

Prior to my divorce my ex had, shall we say, performance problems. So for me, it's been a few years. I didn't miss it while we were still together, but now....

hooker vs. hooked

Guest — Sun, 06 Jul 2008 09:12:44 -0400

Prostitution is illegal. So the woman selling her body is the one who goes to jail. It is not a double standard. I think men are like little boys who are always trying to get away with something and not get caught. I guess they feel a prostitute is "safer" because there are no strings attached. Just a mindless romp in the hay. Getting some "strange" as they say.

Getting over the loneliness

Guest — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 21:24:46 -0400

Just when I think I'm starting to get lonely on a solo trip, someone comes along to perk up my day or meal. And, just when I start to feel a bit stifled by a traveling partner, an opportunity arises to step out on my own or to meet new people. Your Greece trip sounds fabulous and I'm sure you'll have a great time together! Beth Whitman www.WanderlustAndLipstick.com

You describe the Portland

Guest — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 13:21:26 -0400

You describe the Portland heat, the hour-by-hour single parenthood, everything, perfectly. RBYS

You describe the Portland

Guest — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 13:20:45 -0400

You describe the Portland heat, single parenthood hour-by-hour, everything, perfectly. RBYS

The Date

Guest — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 21:56:59 -0400

I'm always amazed how women compare their new man to their ex hubbies without realizing the reason why newly found friendships/relationships with men post divorce are usually better is because women have higher expectations of themselves and therefore of their new mates. Go figure! I'm glad to see some women do eventually evolve from the "Knight in shining armor/take care of me phase" to nuturing adult relationships. Unfortunately, this does not usually happen until disappointment and pain occurs in a woman's life (usually base on her choices) when she stops blaming her ex for everything. Change, control, confidence, and good choices lies within. PRINCE CHARMING is a myth, so get over it! Remember men are not that complicated!