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Do your homework first and you Cinderella will find your prince

drcindybrown — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 04:46:06 -0400

I did meet my fiance on Match.com...however beware don't just jump on that site because I found my prince charming there. Read my story first and find out why it finally happened for me after 5 years being single after my divorce, lots of time, personal growth and research. I like many of you had never really seriously dated before I got married at a young age of 21 and I was suddenly back on the market after my 14 year relationship and then divorce and 2 rebound relationships. I did not really know what I wanted...however I knew what I did not want! I knew myself a little bit, however I knew I needed some more personal growth in order to attract the right person, instead of other men who wouldn't offer me what I wanted. SO long story short I cruised the various internet sites (match, lava life, athletic singles, millionairematch,eharmony , rapid dating, dating mixers etc, all in the name of getting to know myself and getting to know what I wanted. It was a good start, but I still was not finding the right one because I was not clear in myself, my closet was still crowded with old baggage from my past/past relationships/past emotions and I had unconscious fears (that I discovered later) that were inhibiting me from attracting the right man into my life. SO for that 5 year period i stumbled a lot and explored and grew a lot discovering who I was single and relating with others and what was in my closet that needed cleaning out, Then the most important step after I did all of those preliminary steps was to discover and then DECLARE what I wanted and go find just that. AND I DID. I want YOU to uncover you and find what you want too! I wrote a book outlining all the steps I took to finally attract my prince called- The Cinderella System™, 7 steps to attracting the Man & Relationship of your dreams, to help you achieve your dream faster than I did. I created this easy to use system that has exercises for discovery and so that you manifest your partner like I did. I know my journey and this book will help you TheCinderellaSystemBook.com do the homework and your dream and the fairy tale will come true! I am sharing my story and journey in order to help others have what is our right - LOVE and SELF-LOVE!

I have no idea!!! my mom was

kristijo — Mon, 14 Jan 2008 19:58:11 -0500

I have no idea!!! my mom was the one who suggested this website, maybe you can help..

I need help with starting

kristijo — Mon, 14 Jan 2008 19:56:40 -0500

I need help with starting over again, I don't have very many friends where I live or family.. Maybe someone could help?

advice that worked for a friend

Guest — Wed, 05 Dec 2007 01:04:02 -0500

A friend of mine told me that a part-time job was a great way to meet new people. She worked at a marketing agency that had an exciting short-term project running. She figured worst case, she would meet some interesting people and make some extra money. It turns out that the people were really nice and she formed some friendships with several of the other employees. She went out on a few dates with one of the people she met - a little office romance always adds a little spice. Try it and let me know how it works out!

no...

Guest — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 08:51:01 -0500

No! I've had no luck. Seems like men can 'talk a good talk' online but once I meet them their picture suddenly doesn't look anything like them or does their personality, or lack of one, reflect what they wrote. Anyone else have any good ideas of meeting men outside of bars and online??????

Thanks

Faith Eggers — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 08:30:52 -0500

OK, I'll check it out!

heh

Alice Brooks — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 00:58:25 -0500

okcupid -- terrible name, lovely place. A lot of people just mosey about in the journals - a lot of snarky and intelligent people.

I'm curious to know what

Faith Eggers — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 23:52:17 -0500

I'm curious to know what that site is....

Faith

Ha

Faith Eggers — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 23:51:44 -0500

I know my friends all bash it too but then I find them all on there anyhow. New York is tough for dating in general......so competitive!! If I find any answers I'll be sure to let you know.

Online Dating

Michelle Rosenthal — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 23:47:50 -0500

Faith,
I am in the same boat! My mother keeps harassing me to go online but it's so not me. I go out a lot but agree that I lost likely will not meet anyone serious in a bar...although that is how I met Steve. New York is tough for online dating. My girlfriends all bash it, yet some of my friends have had great success. Keep us posted on what you end up doing...and if you find the answer to the mystery question "Where do you meet single me", feel free to share!

-Michelle

I joined one online

Alice Brooks — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 13:56:37 -0500

I joined one online community that had dating as a component -- and I had a lot of success with it. I met some very smart and interesting people, and had I been interested in a more long-term relationship, I definitely would have found one. I don't know if I would have been as successful if the site had been *just* for dating - I've looked at a couple of them and haven't found them at all appealing. It's all about the site, I think.

It's chancy...but it can work...

Donna Carlisle — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 12:28:18 -0500

I have used a couple dating websites, and I've met people that I've encountered in online forums and even chatrooms. There's always a risk, and of course its much easier to misrepresent yourself behind a computer screen than in a bar.

However, I have had some fun dates, and I had a relationship that lasted a year with a man I met online, so it can be successful. Just make sure and be safe. If setting up a meeting, make sure and meet somewhere public and let someone know where you're going to be. Watch for red flags, like him not letting you call or being dodgy when you ask about previous relationships. Unfortunately it seems many married men are looking for the one night stand or a discreet sex partner, and the anonymity of the internet makes it easy.

Be careful, and keep your options open. It can be very rewarding!

Old Fashioned Way

Taylor Raine — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 10:51:06 -0500

I've never used online dating services before, and can say that I've never met anyone that it did any good. Why don't you ask around. I'm sure your friends or family know of some decent, respectable gentleman, that fit your criteria as someone you might want to go out with...

And, you usually find people, where you least suspect them....
Taylor Raine

Wanted: Online Dating Advice

Faith Eggers — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 10:15:00 -0500

I've decided that I want to start dating again. I don't know why except, well, maybe I'm bored and dying for some adult conversation. Or maybe I'm just looking for a new way to torture myself!

As I said in a post awhile back, men were beating down my door. "Were" is the operative word here, ladies. I knew that as soon as I was interested, there wouldn't be a prospect in sight. Sigh.

I asked all of my friends where they meet their men and I got the same answers over and over again. The bar and online.

Okay, meeting men at a bar is just not my style. I loathe cheesy pick-up lines, drunken morons, the drunken morons' drunken friends, and the disgusting, humiliating, or awkward one-night-stand that usually occurs when you meet a guy at a bar.

The online dating thing is something I used to balk at, but now it seems as if everyone is doing it. So, if everyone is doing it, why don't I give it a shot?

However, since I over analyze everything, I've decided to conduct some research as to which sites are most effective, least offensive — trust me some of them are very offensive — and draw a younger 20s and 30s crowd. Maybe I should save my time and call Levi — he seemed to have a pretty good handle on all of this!