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Pay what we owe

Guest — Tue, 06 May 2008 19:39:47 -0400

It's great when we pay something or someone that we owe money to isn't it...

I figure as long as he

Guest — Sat, 03 May 2008 17:43:18 -0400

I figure as long as he starts paying some money he can spout off his crap to deaf ears! Screw him and his nonsense talk- and keep his b***s right where they are. CM

"You never follow up with

Cathy Meyer — Fri, 02 May 2008 23:50:22 -0400

"You never follow up with anything." This sounds so much like things my ex used to say to me Faith. Just like you, I would feel like going crazy all over him. I did EVERYTHING that was done for our sons and he would pop in occasionally to tell me I was not doing it right. Just like Levi, he knew what buttons to push. Levi knows that Adrian is the most important thing in the world to you. He knows that demeaning the way you mother is the quickest and easiest way to get to you. The good news is, one day you won’t care less what his opinion or implications of anything you do are. He will just be some man you used to know. Some man who sends you a check monthly that helps you give Adrian all he needs and quite a bit of what he wants. And, you won't care whether he sends that check because he cares or because he is afraid he will get in trouble if he doesn't. It will be all about you and Adrian and you won't give Levi a second thought.

Is His Guilt Getting To Him?

Faith Eggers — Fri, 02 May 2008 18:00:11 -0400

So, are you all ready for this...Levi actually did something! He called Adrian's doctor and paid his $180 bill. Wow, right? I was pretty amazed myself. I think it took me three minutes standing in front of the receptionist before I realized that my mouth was hanging open.

When I got home, I checked my e-mail and I had this from Levi: "The bill has been paid and they will see Adrian. You can call the doctor's office, go to future appts etc. They will help you get free insurance. They said they told you this but you never followed up. You never follow up with anything."

Okay, that pissed me off. I actually hit the roof on that one. How dare he imply that I don't follow through in regards to my son, in regard to my son's health! Does he have any idea how insulting that is, especially coming from him?!

I mean, geez...he pays one bill — one bill that he was ordered by a judge to pay — and suddenly he thinks he has the right to imply that I'm not a good mother.

Do I need to remind him that I've been here since day one? That I'm the one who takes him to the doctor? That I'm the one who cooks him dinner, gives him baths, takes him to the playground, etc.? Does he need reminding that Adrian climbs into bed with ME at night, that I'm the only one of us that he knows?

I suppose he'd like it if I got down on my knees and thanked him for paying the stupid bill. And you know what, maybe I should, because its really a miracle.

I would really like to believe that Levi did that because he actually has a conscience and it was starting to get to him. I'd like to believe that he paid it out of concern for our son. I'd like to believe all of that, but I'm more inclined to believe that he paid it simply because he's worried that he'll get in trouble if he doesn't.

It's always all about him.