totally agree

Tanya — Tue, 27 May 2008 16:38:59 -0400

This is my life. I left my husband when I found passion elsewhere because I was horrified at the idea of not experiencing any more passion in my life, or waiting until the kids were grown to find it elsewhere. I had sex unlike anything I had ever experienced before. Now that relationship has finally ended & I'm not sure what's possible -- I want the passion in a functional, respectful relationship. I'm trying to be hopeful out here but it's tough.

That stage can last- just

Guest — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 09:19:31 -0400

That stage can last- just don't try so hard...have fun with it, try new things... CM

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Alice Brooks — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 08:56:07 -0400

There's a lot to be said for lust.

Jake and I were never that sexual a couple. Sex was good, sometimes great. There's definitely something to be said about having one long-term partner, everything being the first for both of you. Learning about sex was never uncomfortable or awkward, there were no early experiences that would need hashing out in therapy later. But we never really had a can't-keep-my-hands-off-you stage.

I thought that this was because we knew each other so well. I thought it was because we had been together so long, that we had just shifted into that comfy, everyday kind of relationship. I thought maybe I just wasn't that interested in sex in general.

Hindsight, of course, says a lot. Ultimately, I just don't think we were that attracted to each other. But we fell in love way, way too young to know that.

Even when our marriage was pretty solid, there was a part of me that would see movies, read books, see other people, and feel cheated. I'd console myself with the things I did have — I had trust, and friendship, and humor, and safety. Surely one can't expect it all, I thought.

Well, why not?

There's a lot to be said for passion. There's a lot to be said for being thrown against a wall, for barely being able to make it through the apartment door, for leaving a party early. It's kind of terrifying that I could very well have lived out my adult life without having experienced that.

It's hard to imagine this stage can possibly last, but then I look at Lindsay and Jesse, who have been married four years and still feel that way. I think back to just a year ago, when I thought the love bit and the lust bit were mutually exclusive. I've been wrong before. And am determined to figure out a way to keep this part.

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totally agree

That stage can last- just

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