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You are so right!

Wanda Woodard — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 13:29:49 -0400

My family and friends all told me the same thing, and I do agree. I'm so glad you are getting what you deserve and then some. Glad his greed got the best of him -- Karma is an amazing thing. (smile) I'm waiting for mine.

I hear ya!

Guest — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 09:37:08 -0400

I am living, in some ways, your scenario. I wanted out so badly that I offered him everything, if we could just split the house and cars. He could have the rest (including all financial assets). I would have a deferred comp that wasn't huge, and a failing business. He refused (thankfully), thinking I was "putting one over on him". Now we're in the delightful subpoena phase of this whole mess, and I am realizing that he hid all of our assets from me during the last two years of our failing marriage. I am so glad that his greed got the best of him, since I will walk away much, much better off than if he had taken my offered deal. Ladies-- as much as you want to walk away, look out for your own best interests. You can bet that he won't.

all in a days work, I

Guest — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 19:52:44 -0400

all in a days work, I suppose... thank goodness you are closer to being far away from him. I admire your strength. CM

Getting What I Deserve

Wanda Woodard — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 08:01:37 -0400

Let me tell you something. When you're divorcing an abusive maniac, you don't think about your financial investments. I know. I know. I should have. But I just wanted out and the best way to accomplish that at the moment was to give him everything. He's one greedy guy.

However, in the divorce agreement that his lawyer drew up there was absolutely nothing stipulating that he had to pay, well, anything. Nothing. Nada. Zip.

Naturally, the judge threw that out and warned the attorney to come back with a plan for child support or she'd do it herself. (Frankly, I think Stinky's lawyer was just making sure she had another reason to bill him another grand.)

When all was said and done, the agreement stipulated that Stinky pay for my car (roughly $380) and that he pay the car insurance of about $50 a month and give me a check or cash for another $300. The sum total for two children was $750 a month. Don't do this.

Enforcing this kind of discombobulated agreement is nearly impossible. And, once the car is paid for you have to coax your ex to turn the title over to you, not an easy task with Stinky, as it seemed the car was the one thing that he still held over me. With Stinky it was always about control.

And, if you happen to live in another state, as I do, and you're driving around with an expired Mississippi tag because you cannot get a Tennessee tag unless the car is in your name, and if you find yourself sitting at a red light with a motorcycle cop on your tail, chances are very good you will be pulled over.

Up until that day, you should have seen the ways I managed to avoid ever being in front of a squad car — takes some real talent if you don't want to break the law.