firstwivesworld - I Want To Be Pursued, Not the Pursuer - Comments http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/vibrant-voices/a-j-wylder/i-want-be-pursued-not-the-pursuer Comments for "I Want To Be Pursued, Not the Pursuer" en Oh the rituals of dating- is http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/vibrant-voices/a-j-wylder/i-want-be-pursued-not-the-pursuer#comment-4492 Oh the rituals of dating- is it ever easy? Good luck! CM Sat, 01 Mar 2008 22:06:03 -0500 Guest comment 4492 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com I Want To Be Pursued, Not the Pursuer http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/vibrant-voices/a-j-wylder/i-want-be-pursued-not-the-pursuer <p>In a recent <a href="/community/vibrant-voices/a-j-wylder/guys-look-they-dont-talk" target="_blank">blog</a>, I addressed about how guys in Manhattan seem to look but not talk and, compared with guys in some other parts of the country, are hard to start a conversation with.</p><p>A reader commented that perhaps I make the move and approach the man. There's no doubt this is a good piece of advice and one I had already taken into consideration. </p><p>But here's my problem: If a guy doesn't have enough balls to make a move or isn't interested enough to try and start a conversation, then why should I?</p><p>This may sound snobbish, but I am not here to make a guy feel good and boost his ego. I have dealt with enough crap and am tired of bending over backward to make good with guys. It is their turn. </p><p>I want to feel as though I am desired and attractive and I want to be pursued — not be the pursuer. </p><p>As you can tell by my thick Little Black Book (<i>not!</i>), my strategy is working quite well. Ha!<br /><br /> </p> http://www.firstwivesworld.com/community/vibrant-voices/a-j-wylder/i-want-be-pursued-not-the-pursuer#comments Sex and Love Moving Beyond Divorce Thu, 28 Feb 2008 14:00:28 -0500 A.J. Wylder 5664 at http://www.firstwivesworld.com