He's Making Them Keep Secrets

Taylor Raine — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 14:00:00 -0500

'p.I have read several books on co-parenting, and how to try and establish positive relationships between your ex for your children. This, however, very difficult for me. I was finally able to get the boys in to an appointment with a recommended counselor. This has taken months, mind you — and guess who shows up? Right. The ex. He hadn't wanted them to go to counseling because he knew they would innocently say something, or perhaps even divulge their feelings to someone not within the home.

Now, he has to be present every moment that the boys are even looking at this building. It's very intimidating — for me, as well as for the boys. I know that when we made an attempt to seek counseling, he voiced his opinion prior to our appointments about what could and could not be discussed during our sessions. Granted, he's not in the room with the boys, but I'm sure he has the same philosophy behind them talking to someone about their problems.

It hurts me that they are vulnerable — that I was vulnerable to that. I feel powerless to the situation though, and can only show the boys that I love them and respect their time to vent their feelings. I truly hope this is enough for them. I love them so much and want to eliminate any hurt that I can for them. I'm sure most of us feel that way. Anyone found any great co-parenting books beyond the normal, "your family is changing," dynamic?

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