For starters, you are

Guest — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 15:54:11 -0500

For starters, you are correct in not bad-mouthing their Father- no matter how much you want to. Try and reassure them that they are safe, loved, and what is happening is in no way their fault. Children tend to take on the world in times of crisis, and often feel that they are responsible. CM

How Can I Make The Kids More Comfortable?

Taylor Raine — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 14:00:00 -0500

The most difficult challenge for me right now is how my children are reacting to the divorce. They are five and seven, innocent little guys who just need unconditional love. It's hard for me when they get upset and ask for their dad. The bottom line is that the situation really isn't OK, so I certainly don't want to lie to them and say it is.

I won't belittle their father to them, even though I know he does utilize any chance he has to tell them negative things about me. I can even often hear him speaking to them about me on their mobile phones. I know it's happening, and right in front of my face.

The boys have their ups and downs, as do I. I finally have an appointment for them to seek counseling, since my ex was fighting me in just allowing them to attend. I think deep down he just knows that some of the things he has done and said will be discussed in counseling. Of course, he doesn't want that to impact his perfect dad image.

So, they're hurting. They're uncomfortable. They have the same reactions as adults, and it's not fair to keep them from seeking help. I'm doing the best I can to try and comfort them and let them know that they are loved by both of us. I want what is best for them. Do you have any tips on how to keep your children more comfortable during the divorce process?

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