Wanda's post last week about living in the real world rocked! Ice cream for dinner? You are my new hero!

So thanks, Wanda. I'm taking it to heart and making peace with my piles.

I'm tired of holding myself up to ridiculously unattainable standards. I read and re-read about the detrimental ways super-mom syndrome is killing women, all the reasons it's okay — healthy, even — to let the house be a mess, but I just can't tell that obnoxious internal judge to sit down and shut the hell up.

Grilled cheese, soup, salad, and fruit for dinner instead of elaborate homemade gourmet makes me feel like someone should call child services and take my kids to a better home.

Why? It's a healthy meal.

I'm so embarrassed about the tiny size of my one-bedroom apartment and the piles of papers and toys and clothes, I haven't invited one of Roxie's friends here to play this year.

I grew up in an impossibly spotless five-bedroom house. I'm talking David Lynch freaky clean. We sat down as a family for a home cooked meal. Every night. Always. Eight of us, when all the kids were home.

My parents, brother, two sisters, me, my uncle and grandma Rose, for whom Roxie is named. (My grandmother and my developmentally delayed uncle lived with us.)

Both my parents, and my Grandma Rose and my uncle worked full or part time. Still the food was homemade and nothing was out of place. Ever.

How'd they do it?

I'll tell you how. Two words. Cleaning lady.

There were four adults pitching in on meals, house work, and yard work. FOUR! When the adults were all working, there was enough income to hire outside help.

Even in my smaller space, with less people, how can I expect to do the work it took four (five, including the cleaning lady) adults handle in my parents' house?

This week, I'm inviting Roxie's friend M. over. So what if you can't find the sink through the dishes?

And, if I feel really nutty, I'm serving chocolate ice cream for dinner.